I don’t want to be inconvenienced.

Many people would feel good about helping out. Keep that in mind. I try to think about it when offered help. Else I was always saying no, and it turns out it may also be a trauma response. My braing being used to doing things myself, not wanting to feel dependant, or -as it was said- bothering others (I am a people pleaser)

Not only does she got this, she's being extra efficient by moving two pieces of furniture at once!

Until you have to do across the grass.

I recently moved out of my apartment into a new place and when I reached out to friends to help me move some larger pieces of furniture, I suddenly found myself in the middle of a scheduling conundrum where people were telling me what time and day they were individually free. I was trying to coordinate with them to see when was best for them. Then it hit me, I was asking for a favor not planning a party. It then became very easy for me to just consider most of them busy. I moved 90% of it by myself. I got one friend to help me move 2 pieces of furniture that I could not physically disassemble and that was that. That friend gets a reward for the help and I'm still a little bitter that everyone else was too busy.

Asking for help moving will show you really how far some people will go for you.

So true. Was able to get a 200kg safe in my room alone. Didn't wanted to ask someone

For me it's both

Do you need help?

No I don't want to owe you anything later.

I once rented a truck and hauled my queen-size mattress and box-spring an hour away by myself so I didn't have to talk to anyone

Apart from the socializing time, the time to help the helper doesn't accumulate as time spent on your end because the helper will help again speeding up another task of yours. In the long run the time saved from receiving help and the time spent from helping would balance out. The socializing time is lost and accumulates. With that said, there are tasks that are impossible or take significantly more than double when done alone compared to when done with a helper. That could very well make up for the lost socializing time. Now add specialization where you help in tasks that you're good at and the helper does the same for you and those tasks end up done way faster than without help. And that's why we invented division of labour, which allowed us to turn nature into useful stuff much faster than before. 😄

I don't ask for help enough. Replaced a toilet yesterday and my back is complaining today.

ah, but you have to account for the opportunity cost of socialization that you do want.

the event itself now becomes socializing, as you said, which means you don't have to go socialize on another separate occasion. and because this is a defined task, you can say "well we're done here" and cut it off.

I'm an introvert, but I still like to spend time with friends in limited amounts. I would much rather somebody help me with a task for an hour or two than go hang around with no defined task for a couple hours. I like having something to do

Sometime in my late 20s early 30s, I was told hyper independence is a sign of trauma. I've been working to trust people more, but it's tough.

Anti-social doesn't mean avoidant. Introversion makes you tired of dealing with people quicker and seek to be alone. Anti-social people tend to lack empathy and have a complete disregard for rules.

Most of them do, you just have to hit on girls outside of the hospital rehab, or at least stop targeting the ones in wheelchairs.